“I just love a guy that’s chill. I’m so crazy
he just balances me out.”
There is a lot of truth to that quote. In an ideal
situation, two people will seek to complement each other. They will see that
what one has as a strength or skill the other may have as a weakness or
ineptness, and vice versa.
There is validity to the saying “opposites attract.” An
important component is to understanding not only our own strengths and
weaknesses but also being aware of how the other person can complement those strengths
and weaknesses.
In personality where two people are complete opposites, make
certain that habits or traits you don’t like in the person isn’t carried on
into a long term relationship such as marriage or at least have these
discussions before marriage. When dating we seem to be more forgiving and overlook
certain qualities that are important to us; however, marriage and everyday living with a certain person
can make for a long time of uncertainty of choice. Even though we tend to like complete
opposites, make certain they aren’t completely against your beliefs. Another word don’t get completely involved or
committed to someone whom you don’t agree in the other’s values.
I can’t stress enough how much attraction and chemistry play
in a relationship. To have sex with someone who makes your heart go pitter
patter is much more exciting than having sex with someone who is not so accommodating.
Sex can be as simple as a touch or kiss. Mental sex can be just as good as physical
sex. However we choose to have sex, make certain all parties are enjoying
the experience.
I can’t imagine being involved in a marriage that was
planned by family members. Not only are we not attracted physically, but we are
also missing the mental connection that keeps couples together. Sometimes
family can make or break a relationship so make sure you are tuned in and
connected on your own terms and not because you have the approval of family
members. In some cases we don’t have approval from family members and that
requires accepting the person without others permission and not caring how
others think as long as children aren’t involved.
Divorce rates are at an all-time high and in many cases
children are involved. Children from a previous marriage does create
complications so make certain when getting involved with this type of person,
the children are a part of the equation. It is especially difficult to go into
a relationship when only one party has children from a previous marriage. This
is a good example of " complete opposites" from a different perspective. The
person that doesn’t have children needs to consider a life style change. If the party without children doesn’t want to
share their life with all the family, then it is important to walk away from
the relationship, because the person with children will never move on with just
you. It takes a certain special person to want to get involved with a life involving
children from a previous relationship.
Blended families are becoming the norm as more and more
people get a reality check at what being married to the same person for a lifetime
really means. The person getting involved without children needs to know truths
about the not so glamorous life children can bring into a relationship. In some
cases, it is best to wait till they have grown up and moved out if young needy children
are something one doesn’t want to be a part of in the relationship, or simply
move on to someone else. Many things
need to be processed when getting involved in this type of relationship, and thinking
things through is usually not what most do when getting involved. So make certain the children are thought of
first before moving on with a committed relationship, because it will be only become
more heart breaking for them to witness another bad marriage.
Opposite or not sex goes a long ways, so sometimes it’s best
just to stick with sex for a long time coming, unless of course, your religion
doesn’t allow.
Dokta Laura
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